Tuesday, July 12, 2011

Daily MelWear: Brightening My Day with Everybody, Everywear

Happy Tuesday, friends, and welcome to another edition of Everybody, Everywear! This month's theme is yellow.

Are we all on the same page about how much I love yellow? I love it.  A lot.

Granted, I don't think it's all that flattering on me, a pale brunette, but I love its sunny disposition so much that I choose to ignore the fashion rules and flaunt the yellow anyway. It makes me happy.

I do have to admit that I'm not actually wearing this today. I wore it yesterday. We have a board meeting tonight and while *I* think this would be appropriate (considering some of our board members show up in scrubs or jeans), I'm fairly certain my boss wouldn't approve of the pattern and the bright yellow. And I don't know about you with your boss, but I'd like to keep my boss happy. Remaining employed seems like a good idea at the moment, especially as a single mom.

Speaking of which - I actually got to go OUT last weekend! My closest friends are the ones that live farthest away from me, so I don't get out much. I was whining to a local friend about it and she invited me to join her on a girls' night with her friends on Saturday. We went to dinner at a soup/salad/sandwich place and then hit the outlets (they're open till 11PM - WAY past my usual bedtime!). It was fun to get out of the house for a little bit. Granted, it was with a group of girls and not like I was on a date or anything, but it's a start. They're a great group and I had a blast chatting and shopping with them. I'm so grateful to my friend for inviting me!

And now I'm going to get some work done and hopefully take a peek at everyone else's yellow outfits.

I love yellow. Have I mentioned that lately?

Have a great day, ya'll!

Today's (uh,  yesterday's) outfit:
Dress: Target (One of their daily deals last week! It's so comfy, I just hope it doesn't shrink after washing it; I'm  planning to hang it to dry.)
Yellow Jacket: Burlington (came with a skirt)
White Belt: Wal-Mart
Gray Shoes: Payless

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Monday, July 11, 2011

Proper Professional: Keep Warm

The Proper Professional feature was birthed out of my desire to spread the blogging love while also gaining some insight into professional and business attire in various situations. My goal is to feature bloggers from all different professions, whether stay-at-home moms, mega-corporation executive assistants, work-from-home employees, small office staff, business owners or more, to view different perspectives and opinions on what is appropriate, acceptable, and professional. Hopefully you'll be inspired and introduced to some great new blogs, too! To catch up on previous interviews, click here. 

Today we're hearing from Danielle, who blogs at Keep Warm.  Danielle is one of those people who is so very encouraging and seems like the kind of friend I'd love to go grab a beer with after work. While I love blogging for introducing me to amazing people like her, it makes me sad to know that we live worlds apart!

Tell us a little about yourself and your blog.
I'm Danielle and I hang out over at Keep Warm. I like things like dancing in the kitchen and cuddles. I think that there is a way to grow into adulthood without falling into the 'should' trap. Different people have different desires and dreams and they should be celebrated rather than be squished into the status quo. Your dreams are yours alone. Go make them happen.

How did you come up with your blog name?
Keep warm is how I often sign my emails and letters. I live in the middle of the Canadian prairies where it is brutally cold in the winter. And boiling in the summer. I think it's a lovely sentiment because it's also about keeping your spirit warm, in whichever way that suits you best.

Do you work from home or outside the home, and what do you do? 
Good question! I've worked at an agency for Newcomers to Canada for nearly 3 years. It's really interesting because I get to talk to people from all over the world on a daily basis. I love travelling and this way I'm able to learn things even if I'm not going anywhere right now. 

At the moment I'm what's called an Information Advisor. Basically I help Newcomers register their children for school and organize their English class entry tests, as well as help them find any bit of information or solve any problem. Every day has different questions. 

In the past I've also been coordinating partnerships between our centre and smaller towns in the surrounding area, and I was an employment counsellor for over a year too in this agency.

Before that I worked at a staffing agency but was so unhappy that I quit after 6 months to go to Spain and England!

Do you have a dress code by which you need to abide? If so, what is it and how do your co-workers (if applicable) approach the dress code?
We don't really have a dress code. We don't want to dress too professionally/formally because I think that it's intimidating for those people who have just come from a refugee camp. We want to be as approachable, welcoming and tolerant as possible and reflect that in the way we dress. We are able to wear pretty much anything and everything as long as we're decent.

I remember when I first started wearing my crazy coloured tights I was expecting a manager to say something but everyone was positive. When I put a pink streak in my hair one of the more strict managers looked at me sideways but my manager said that it was awesome. Clients really like it too. Especially the children. I definitely dress up more than 98% of my coworkers.

My philosophy on dress codes is that I'm going to push it as much as I can until someone says something to me. At the staffing agency it was a strict business dress code. I covered up my wrist tattoo until I became disenchanted and then displayed it as a tiny, barely noticeable mini-rebellion.


Do you choose your outfits in advance or in the morning, and how long does it take you to get ready in the mornings?
I generally try to think of the basics the night before. I don't lay them out or try them on which definitely leads to some scrambling in the morning. I'm certainly not a morning person and have been known to put things on inside out and backwards. It takes the pressure off that I can rock up to work in nearly anything but I like to look like I put in slightly more effort. I'm up and out the door within an hour. I want every second of sweet sleep that I can get! 

If you were commissioned to rewrite the dress code, what would you change (if anything)?
I think that I would only want people to wear things that will make them happy and feel the most like themselves. When you are comfortable and know that you look good, I feel the time that you spend with the clients will be that much more meaningful. You can spend your energy on them rather than wondering if you look ok.

Do you think companies should take into account the potential cost for certain dress codes to be achieved and if so, should they be concerned about the cost being equal for both men and women?
When I had to wear a professional dress or a suit everyday I think it would have been nice to be compensated for that. Suits can be expensive. It seems that women have to have more variety in their wardrobe. Men can pop on the same suit with a different top and I'm sure I wouldn't notice (and what is the deal that even scruffy men can put on a suit and they are extra attractive?).

What is your definition of professional attire and would this vary if the business is a small business compared to a larger corporation?
I think professional attire depends entirely on what kind of business it is.
Image is everything in a company and they have to represent what they do through the people that do it. I also think that if you have mature adults who are competent at their jobs, they are also probably capable of putting together an outfit that is modest, professional, and still represents a bit of personality. Even if there is no dress code I'm not going to show up for work wearing a bikini and fuzzy mules. Probably.

I think the key thing to remember is that when you are at work you are you but you are also an ambassador for the company that you work for. If what you're wearing represents the values of the business you're in, then you are professional.

What are some pieces that every woman should have available in their professional arsenal?
Black dress that makes her want to twirl with delight! Pencil skirt that makes her feel powerful! Killer shoes that makes them strut with confidence in herself and her abilities in the work place!

What pieces are never professionally appropriate regardless of the situation?
Tube tops, lucite platform shoes and mid-rift baring shirts (unless you are an exotic dancer and then you're probably ok). Last week I would have said a sparkly mini-dress but I pulled that one off at work recently...

Describe an outfit you'd wear in each of the following settings: 
1. A typical day at work.
I would wear a simple dress. In the winter I like to style it up with fun tights and shoes.
 
2. A formal business meeting. 
I would wear a pencil skirt and a blazer. But I would try to keep it me like in this photo where I've switched out the buttons and embroidered the skirt.

3. An informal meeting with co-workers. 
I might wear a skirt and top or jeans. Something that shows that we're all equals and our work is equally valued.

4. A business dinner with co-workers and superiors.
I've never been on one of these. I expect I'd go with a slightly fancier dress.

Are there any questions you wish I'd asked or is there anything else you'd like to mention regarding this topic?
Hmm I think you covered it Miss Melissa. Thanks so very much for having me!
Isn't Danielle adorable? She's incredibly sweet and so very positive, too. If you're not following her yet, get on that! :)

If you'd like to be featured (or want to recommend someone else), please contact me at {aworkingmomscloset at gmail.com}! 

Have a happy Monday, friends!

Friday, July 8, 2011

SheCon Lovely: Maria de los Angeles

The SheCon Lovely feature is my way of introducing my readers to the new friends that I made while attending SheCon '11 in Miami, Florida in May. Rather than doing one post with only my thoughts on the conference and telling you about those that I met, I thought it would be more fun for you to read opinions from more people while meeting them firsthand through a guest post.

To read what the previous SheCon Lovelies had to say, click here.

Today we're meeting Maria who blogs at Sex and the Beach. 

*Tell us a little about yourself and your blog (your name, your blog name and any meaning behind it, what you write about, WHO you are, etc.)
I’m Maria de los Angeles, a freelance writer based out of South Florida. I’m the publisher of Sex and the Beach, a blog I started about six years ago as a place to practice my writing craft in a carefree way, since my friends had encouraged me to publish some of the funny and crazy things I tend to blurt out in mixed company. I’d never written humor before – I was an academic and poet before I became a journalist. Sometime in between all of that I also worked as a grant writer, raising funds for a major cultural institution.

Early Sex and the Beach was semi-fictional. I used a penname to write about being single in South Beach, but since then it has evolved as I have in real life, as every artist should. Today I write about all kinds of things – including travel, pirates and social media.

I was also involved in the Ford Fiesta Movement, which helped me generate great content
about adventures with a car. But the tag line is still the same: “a single woman’s guide to
chronic living.” I’m still single and so it’s just kind of how I see the world, with my voice and idiosyncrasies.

Blogging has brought me some really interesting writing gigs, such as a Social Media
column for the Miami New Times, a Sex and Relationships column for Citylink Magazine
and guest contributions over at Tiki Tiki Blog. I’m also an online community moderator for
MiamiBeach411.com and a blogging instructor. Some social media consulting jobs have fallen in my lap, but that’s not something I intentionally set out to do.

I also co-host a weekly online radio show called Social Chats, where we discuss local people, events, places and a bit of social media.


*Have you been to any other blogging or social media conferences before? If so, which ones?
I’ve been to Blogalicious and several Barcamps in South Florida. During SheCon, I also
presented at the Empowered Women’s Summit. I have attended countless Social Media Club South Florida meetings and although I’m not a board member, I’ve been involved in supporting the group since its inception. I have spoken as a panelist or presented at many professional events, such as Chamber of Commerce small business workshops, artist workshops, public relations seminars, undergraduate and graduate courses at local universities, etc.


*What were some of your reasons for attending SheCon?
I had a panel on Social Media and Diversity as well as a presentation on Travel Blogging at
SheCon. But as a blogger, I wanted to support South Florida’s first homegrown conference devoted to blogging and to meet the many other wonderful bloggers who attended.


*Who were your favorite speakers and why?
I loved Guy Kawasaki. He is always so inspiring and I love the simplicity of his message – both its form and content. I also enjoyed Aliza Sherman’s sass, wit and insight. (What’s not to love about that boa?) All of the presenters were great though – it’s hard to choose a favorite.

My panel with Blanca Stella Mejia (@miamishines) and Jeannette Kaplun (@jeannettekaplun) featured a last minute special guest – Laura Tellado (@laurita86) who writes a blog about her experience with Spina Bifida. It was so inspiring to see her courageously step up to the dais at our impromptu request. She doesn’t know it yet, but she’s a true role model.


*What do you think is the most important thing you learned from the SheCon presentations?
That we all have so much common ground and that we have much to learn from each other. It’s not just about the presentations either. You learn a lot by sharing while networking and socializing. I get inspired when I can encourage people to follow their self-publishing dreams and I was able to do some of this over the weekend.

*What do you think is the most important thing you learned from the conference as a whole?
Again, just being with a group of creative women finding a sense of entrepreneurship through self-publishing was the greatest highlight.

*What were your favorite events/activities?
Does late night karaoke after a few cocktails count? Actually, I really enjoyed a cocktail party hosted by Calliope Games. It was great to meet other self-publishers while playing board games – a great way to connect and break the ice. The Wine Sisterhood Suite was totally fun, too. I might as well give props to GM as well … I took advantage of their Chevy rides and got chauffeured around South Beach!

*What advice would you give to someone who has never attended a conference and is
considering one in the future?

Don’t even think twice about it! You can’t blog in a vacuum. Get out there and network. Share with others what you know and learn from others as well. Trust me, even the absolute beginner has something of value to share. We all do. Blogging is just a way to manifest what you already know and are passionate about.

If money is an issue, then start your own event in your community. It doesn’t have to be some elaborately planned thing. Connect with other bloggers. Rally a group of them together for happy hour. It’s really that simple. Good community building starts small and grows organically.

Just because you don’t think you’re a leader doesn’t mean you don’t have the potential to be one. Six years ago, I never dreamed I would be where I am today. Just keep following your passion.


*Is there anything else you’d like to share about your SheCon experience?
 
I just want to thank SheCon and its organizers for a great experience.

Thursday, July 7, 2011

Daily MelWear: Double Polka

Somehow I don't think the Double Polka is quite as amusing as the Double Rainbow. {I can't believe you can buy the song on iTunes now. You'd think in this day and age, I would've been able to come up with something comparable to get rich.}

{By the way, if you're thinking, "Wow Melissa, that cardigan looks awfully familiar, didn't you just wear that?" the answer is no, but great observation. :) I have this cardigan in two colors and I wore the turquoise one last week!}

I'm still sniffly and sneezy but instead of talking about that, let's talk about double polka dots! My boss isn't a huge fan of patterns to begin with, so mixing them at work isn't quite an option. Since she's out this week, I took advantage of the wee bit of freedom to pair these two pieces together. I really like it! I love the peach and teal together, plus there's a happy contrast with the white polka dots on the dress and the black ones on the cardigan.

When it comes to pattern mixing, do you prefer to mix two different patterns, or two pieces with the same type of pattern? What are your favorite patterns to mix?


Have a great Thursday, friends!

Today's outfit:
Dress: Target
Cardigan: Forever 21
Belt: Target
Heels: Beall's

Wednesday, July 6, 2011

Daily MelWear: Torn

I can't decide if I like this. The outfit started with the shoes. I haven't worn them on the blog yet and figured a week while the boss is away would be a good time. First I considered a black dress with them, and I'm really wishing I'd gone with that option instead.

As much as I complain about this skirt, how it doesn't quite fit so I never feel good in it, I do seem to wear it an awful lot. That just goes to show me that I need a new A-line white skirt!

Originally I had the top tucked in and the skirt pulled up to create a paperbag waist, but that didn't do it for me, so I untucked. I will be honest, I do like it a little better after seeing the photos. The mirror made me uncomfortable though.

And now I'm at work, sniffling, sneezing, coughing, and trying to breathe because I'm congested. The worst part of a cold is not being able to breathe.


Anyone want to bring me some chicken noodle soup-without-the-chicken-because-I'm-a-vegetarian? And some orange juice? I'll be your best friend!

Hope you all have a happy and HEALTHY day!

Today's outfit:
White Skirt: Gap
Pink Cami: Charlotte Russe
Green/White Floral Top: From my aunt (but it's an Ann Taylor)
Pink Belt: Salvation Army
Pink Necklace: Wal-Mart
Nude Wedge Sandals: Beall's