Friday, January 7, 2011

Friend Friday: How Do I Measure Up?

Katy writes, "As I was reading through everyone's new years resolutions and where they want their blogs to be I got to thinking how easy it is to become discouraged by some of the very successful blogs out there, or the ones we perceive as successful. We compare ourselves and suddenly find that we are lacking. So this week we are going to be talking about that."

So here goes...

1. Have you ever looked at someone's blog and thought yours will never measure up?
Um...yeah. All the time. There are so many great blogs out there and it seems like a good amount of them have just blown up in popularity since I've started mine. Which just makes me wonder how on earth they can do it in the same amount of time that I've had; what am I doing wrong or what could I be doing better.

2. Do you (did you) feel pressure to meet some kind of undefined standard for fashion bloggers?
Absolutely. I feel there's a standard of being consistent in posting, being entertaining, being reciprocal in commenting (which has been extremely difficult for me lately) and being inspiring/original/creative. 

It has truly been so hard for me to read and comment on blogs lately that I've considered not posting to my own blog anymore, simply because I feel like it's not fair for me to post and hope people comment on mine when I'm not able to return that courtesy. I'd love to grow my blog and be popular and have sponsors and do all that fun stuff, but I just don't feel like I have it in me right now with everything else that's been happening in my life. I'm a little overwhelmed. A lot overwhelmed, actually.

3. Many established fashion bloggers are also extraordinary DIYers, bakers, and crafty people. Do you think you need to combine all of these things to be successful at blogging?
I don't think it's necessary to combine any of those things, honestly. Sure, they help to attract readers who are able to bake or sew or be crafty, but it's the same with any blog niche. You'll attract the people that relate to your topics. Sometimes I'm a little turned off by blogs that post an abundance of DIY projects simply because I'm NOT good at that and it doesn't interest me. 

4. The most successful blogs are the ones that have their own personal voice - how are you developing your voice or how did you find yours?
That's a good question. I'm not entirely sure that I've found my own voice, per se, but I try to be sure that I'm writing the way that I would normally, to a friend or group of friends in real life. I guess my "voice" is just to be me. One of the reasons that I started blogging is to be a part of the community, which comes through forming relationships, so I try to get to know my readers and fellow bloggers. That way it's easier for me to write for and to you all!

5. Toot your own horn... what's one thing you do that is unique to you and your blog? What gives your blog an edge?
You know what? I'm really not good at tooting my own horn. I think what's unique to A Working Mom's Closet is the fact that I write it! No one else writes it for me! Other than that, I could probably say that the Blogging for Breast Cancer Awareness Challenge in October is unique to my blog.

So as my readers (and friends!), let me pose some questions to you: 
1. What do you enjoy about A Working Mom's Closet?
2. Are there things that you don't like?
3. What would you like to see more or less of, and are there things you'd like to see implemented or stopped?

Make sure that you stop by Katy's blog to check the links for all of the fabulous Friend Friday bloggers posts today, and have a great day!!!


  1. Only just found you via FBFF. Love your answers. I think we all feel the pressure when we look as other blogs but, for me, I try to take that pressure positively and make it help me to up my game on my blog!

    Happy Friday! :)

  2. Hi! I just want to give you a hug! i think you should definitely keep posting, even if you don't have time to comment. I alsways feel the posts are more important anyway. I think you make a good point about the standard being to be really interactive, and it can be hard when you can't keep up! I feel like that at regular intervals!

    I think your voice is really strong, you come across as such an honest and genuine person.

    In terms of feedback, I would recommend working cropping your photos a bit more so there's less background and more you, and making them slightly bigger. That would make a big difference for v little effort!

  3. Great answers.,...honesty is the best policy and although I understand about you not wanting to post if you cant comment.....I dont agree:( We love u girlie..and soo realize life "happens"...keep doing what you are are doing fine:)

  4. Great Answers. I love your blog b/c your are real and I feel like I get to know you more that way.

  5. Great honest answers. When I first started blogging, I was thrilled over the handful of followers I did have because it was confirmation that someone other than me was reading! Then there was a brief period where I would get upset that people who started blogging after me would just explode with followers leaving me in the trampled dust. I think I am finally settling into being happy with the people who do read and follow me and the great community of like-minded people I have found - 'cause come on, I'm never going to make any money at this, so why do numbers matter? ;o)

    As for your blog, I always love reading your bits and taking a peek into your life - isn't that the fun of blogging, not only to share cool outfits but so that in some small way we feel like we know each other?

  6. You seem so sweet, honest, and sincere and I just love your blog! Even with a busy life, you still manage to blog regularly which is so admirable (I don't know who you do it!)! And of course I enjoy reading because of your adorable wardrobe :) I also admire you for providing text and not just pictures. It gives your followers not only a glimpse into your closet but also into your life!

    Don't let pressure to comment on others blogs discourage you from posting on your own! Not everyone in the blogging community is going to be able to respond to every comment and every question and I think that's perfectly fine! Our real world lives come first and I feel like blogging should be our fun creative outlet from the hassles of the rest of our lives, not just another thing we have to worry ourselves with!

  7. I love your answers!! So honest and real. There is definitely pressure in this genre of blogging, but I've tried to use that to my advantage...force myself to work harder at achieving my goals. I'm glad I met you through FBFF!

    Kirstin Marie

  8. Keep posting. You'll be happy you did someday. I have a blog with no followers and that's exactly the way I want it. I can say anything I want. I use it as a diary and essay keeper. I would find it to be too much pressure to always have to be nice and consider others' reactions to my momentary truths. Most of the time I write, it's in the heat of the moment to let off steam. I don't always agree with myself even hours later but it helps to write. I understand the blog follower pressure. I have a friend who got 100 followers in 2 days. I didn't even go public because that would never happen and I'm afraid to put myself in the "who has the most followers" race. So, I'm keeping my blog for me alone. It would be nice to have comments and support from others but that opens the door to criticism too and I'm not good at dealing with that.

  9. Love your answers- and you sound like me about personal voice- We just have to be ourselves and write like we're talking to our friends. Because we ARE! I hope you don't stop posting and I want you to stop feeling pressured not to post just because you don't have the time or emotional energy to dedicate to commenting on other blogs. We know you're here and we love you!

  10. Oh, Melissa, you have to keep posting! I do miss your thoughtful comments on my blog, but I'd miss you more if you disappeared off of cyberspace!

  11. Ahh, Melissa, I'm sorry things have been so rough as of late. Just know that I enjoy hearing from your little corner of the world. I think you are doing a great job :)

  12. Awww... don't get too discouraged. I think you should definitely keep posting and not worry so much about commenting on other blogs. Also, I understand completely about being discouraged when blogs that started around the same time as you start experiencing explosive growth.


  13. You are so sweet and try to do as much as you can to help those around you. Your bubbling optimism in the face of hardness is always uplifting to me.

    The only critic I could give is apologize less for who you are. It's advice I feel many people need. You're a wonderful person with an inspiring style.

    I'd rather see 2 full outfit shots and a third of accessories than 3 full outfit shots. If only to show patterns/earrings/necklaces. You often switch it up so I like it, but since you're asking for opinions I thought I'd throw that in.

  14. When answering these questions, I totally forgot the commenting part. That's one aspect of this where I do feel pressure; like you, I try to be reciprocal to the kindness and generosity given to me, but there are times - right now is one of those times - when my life just doesn't have an extra few minutes in it. Please don't close down your blog because you're feeling that way. I think those of us who blog understand that none of us can always do it all. We've all been there, and I think most of us have pretty big, busy lives beyond our blogs. I'd miss yours, that's for sure!

  15. Seems like I'm not the only one on the same wavelength: Sal linked to this post about being unapologetic:

  16. I agreed with a lot of your answers! I sometimes think I should be more witty and be more creative but really this blog is me and who i am. Don't worry about the comments just do what you can and don't sweat it!

  17. What I like about your blog is that your voice really comes through and from reading it over the past few months I feel like I've gotten to know you a little bit.
    I also like that you offer a mom's perspective towards being a mother but also showing that it's ok to take interest in yourself and your love of fashion.
    Don't stop posting because you don't have time to comment on other blogs! Life sometimes gets busy---for everyone! :)

  18. Thanks for making me laugh with your comment on my blog about not being OLD. :)

    I think you should keep posting for sure even if you can't comment as much as you'd like. I think we all go through periods like that and no one's going to take it personally.

    I'll still be stopping in. . .

  19. Please don't stop posting just because you can't get around to all of us and comment. We are all busy and this blogging takes time. I enjoy reading your blog and I would miss it! I think it's best to just be ourselves. Keeping up appearances is so tiring. I agree with Franca - your voice is strong. It's definitely you and no one else. And your Blogging for Breast Cancer Awareness was awesome.

    Also agreeing with Franca on the photo editing. I prefer a larger, cropped photo so I can see you better.

  20. I love all your honest answers. I swear those FF questions are REALLY good.

    Everyone is apprehensive when they start their blogs and some people are just better at html skills or photography, but the point is never to be the's to relate to people. Which I can see is what your blog does. Keep up the great work!

  21. I love posts about blogger's other interests like weekend posts, travel posts, or home decor. And bigger pictures could be nice too :) Keep up the great work Melissa!

  22. Great, honest answers! I don't stop by to comment enough, but I love the positivity of your blog. Real life sometimes gets in the way of being an active blogger for all of us, but as long as it's still fun for you, I know I personally enjoy reading : )

  23. I always enjoy reading your blog and your answers to these questions!! Definitely don't stop posting! Heck, I've had a some time issues lately with commenting and posting as well. (Hopefully I'll be able to make a good dent today! :) ). I definitely think apologizing less is good! :)


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